Raise your hand if you beat yourself up over your past mistakes, playing scenarios over and over in your mind under the guise of “holding yourself accountable” — I know I do. And I’ve also realized it’s a cowardly way to live. I think I’ve found a healthier alternative.

Quiet quitting — doing just the bare minimum at your job and nothing more — has been in the news a lot lately. Here’s my advice to leaders, and to those who are thinking about quiet quitting.

Like many folks, the start of a new year causes me to take stock of where I am, what’s worked for me, and where I’ve fallen short in trying to fix myself — and it turns out, I’m a lousy mechanic! Thankfully, I know someone who is — and He’s the same old mechanic I’ve been taking my problems to for years.

Our false self sometimes convinces us to say yes when we mean no. But living a life based on what you “should” do is a recipe for misery.

A good leader can and should be impatient if things are taking longer than they should. But the words you speak and the attitude you present can cause unnecessary damage. Here’s how leading from our false self can transform impatience into harshness.

We can’t control what others say to us or about us. But we can control our response. Here’s why it’s important to lead from a place of openness rather than defensiveness.