The False Self Series, Part 7: Not Speaking Up

February 6, 2023

What happens when your false self does the talking for you? You miss opportunities to create a real connection and have a positive impact on those around you. Here’s why real leaders aim to speak with authenticity.

The False Self Series, Part 6: Beating Myself Up about the Past

January 30, 2023

Raise your hand if you beat yourself up over your past mistakes, playing scenarios over and over in your mind under the guise of “holding yourself accountable” — I know I do. And I’ve also realized it’s a cowardly way to live. I think I’ve found a healthier alternative.

One More Question for a New Year, New Perspective

January 23, 2023

Last week, I shared three questions that I’m focusing on this year in an effort to keep my perspective clear. Of course, after I posted the blog, I thought of one more question I wanted to add that impacts how we look at external situations.

My New Year Promise

January 16, 2023

I was in a terrible funk at the end of 2022, one which I knew would continue into the new year if I didn’t make a concerted effort to regain perspective. Here’s how I did it, and the three questions I’m asking myself every day in 2023.

Quiet Quitting

January 9, 2023

Quiet quitting — doing just the bare minimum at your job and nothing more — has been in the news a lot lately. Here’s my advice to leaders, and to those who are thinking about quiet quitting.

New Year, Same Old Mechanic

January 3, 2023

Like many folks, the start of a new year causes me to take stock of where I am, what’s worked for me, and where I’ve fallen short in trying to fix myself — and it turns out, I’m a lousy mechanic! Thankfully, I know someone who is — and He’s the same old mechanic I’ve been taking my problems to for years.

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Best Of: Letter to My Grandpa

December 26, 2022

Like many of you, I’m at home spending the holidays with my family — and that makes me think about a man who had a great impact on my life, my grandpa. Here’s a repost from last spring — my annual “Letter to My Grandpa” in honor of his birthday.

Best Of: Living Your Love

December 19, 2022

Happy holidays! As we focus on family, allow me to share some of my favorite previously-posted family-focused blog posts over the Christmas season. Today’s post is “Living Your Love” — the things I’ve learned about love from my beautiful wife, Sarah. Enjoy!

The False Self Series, Part 5: Saying Yes when I Mean No

December 12, 2022

Our false self sometimes convinces us to say yes when we mean no. But living a life based on what you “should” do is a recipe for misery.

The False Self Series, Part 4: Harshness

December 5, 2022

A good leader can and should be impatient if things are taking longer than they should. But the words you speak and the attitude you present can cause unnecessary damage. Here’s how leading from our false self can transform impatience into harshness.