The False Self Series, Part 10: Tension and Stress

February 27, 2023

Aching shoulders. A headache that won’t quit. Waking yourself up grinding your teeth. When you live from your false self, stress and tension are the result. Living authentically releases that stress and helps you be ready for whatever life throws your way.

The False Self Series, Part 9: Fear Makes Me Play it Safe

February 20, 2023

Fear is a human condition — but our culture and our history like to tell us that leaders aren’t fearful. To lead from your real self, don’t let fear make you play it safe.

The False Self Series, Part 8: Not Forgiving Others

February 13, 2023

When someone wrongs us, it’s tempting to hold onto it. But refusing to forgive others only increases our burden. Here’s what I’ve learned about forgiveness.

The False Self Series, Part 7: Not Speaking Up

February 6, 2023

What happens when your false self does the talking for you? You miss opportunities to create a real connection and have a positive impact on those around you. Here’s why real leaders aim to speak with authenticity.

The False Self Series, Part 6: Beating Myself Up about the Past

January 30, 2023

Raise your hand if you beat yourself up over your past mistakes, playing scenarios over and over in your mind under the guise of “holding yourself accountable” — I know I do. And I’ve also realized it’s a cowardly way to live. I think I’ve found a healthier alternative.

One More Question for a New Year, New Perspective

January 23, 2023

Last week, I shared three questions that I’m focusing on this year in an effort to keep my perspective clear. Of course, after I posted the blog, I thought of one more question I wanted to add that impacts how we look at external situations.

My New Year Promise

January 16, 2023

I was in a terrible funk at the end of 2022, one which I knew would continue into the new year if I didn’t make a concerted effort to regain perspective. Here’s how I did it, and the three questions I’m asking myself every day in 2023.

Quiet Quitting

January 9, 2023

Quiet quitting — doing just the bare minimum at your job and nothing more — has been in the news a lot lately. Here’s my advice to leaders, and to those who are thinking about quiet quitting.

New Year, Same Old Mechanic

January 3, 2023

Like many folks, the start of a new year causes me to take stock of where I am, what’s worked for me, and where I’ve fallen short in trying to fix myself — and it turns out, I’m a lousy mechanic! Thankfully, I know someone who is — and He’s the same old mechanic I’ve been taking my problems to for years.

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Best Of: Letter to My Grandpa

December 26, 2022

Like many of you, I’m at home spending the holidays with my family — and that makes me think about a man who had a great impact on my life, my grandpa. Here’s a repost from last spring — my annual “Letter to My Grandpa” in honor of his birthday.