Speaking from the Cheap Seats
The gym locker room is one of the great theaters of humanity.
The other day, after a workout, I overheard three different conversations happening almost simultaneously.
One guy was giving relationship advice to another man who was clearly going through conflict. From my vantage point — the cheap seats — the advice felt very candid and a little judgmental.
Across the room, another guy was discussing the upcoming NBA draft. He sounded like he had a full scouting department in his head. He already knew which prospects would be stars, which would be busts, and exactly who the Chicago Bulls should draft.
Meanwhile, he was buttoning up his work shirt and heading off to a job completely unrelated to professional basketball.
Then came the funniest moment.
A guy walked in, complaining that every morning, he wakes up sore.
“Can I just have one day where nothing hurts?” he said.
Another guy immediately responded, with an expletive mixed in:
“At least you woke up today.”
I laughed.
A Little Too Familiar
But honestly, the whole scene stayed with me longer than I expected.
As I’ve spent more time writing about leadership and personal growth, I’ve realized something important:
I’m still growing, too.
In fact, there have been seasons of my life — and probably moments even now — where I do all three of those things.
I give overly confident relational advice.
I act like I know exactly what a sports team should do.
I complain about how I’m feeling physically.
And while none of those things are uniquely terrible, they all share a common thread:
It’s easy to speak with certainty from the cheap seats.
One of the greatest gifts of becoming co-CEO has been discovering how much I don’t know. I learned that quickly. The seat itself has humbled me.
Leadership has a way of exposing complexity. Decisions that once looked obvious suddenly carry weight, nuance, and tradeoffs you never considered from the outside.
More than anything, the role has deepened my appreciation for the people around me.
I need the team. We all do.
After all, leadership is accomplishing things with and through other people.
And maybe that’s why I’ve discovered that I’m at my best this year when I’m encouraging others instead of evaluating them.
Encouragement requires humility. Judgment usually requires distance.
So when I head back to the gym in a couple of days, I think I’ll look for the guy navigating relationship conflict and encourage him. I’ll probably look for the guy dealing with all the aches and pains, too.
Because most people are carrying more than we realize. And if we’re honest, most of us are still growing too.
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